Men are from Mars and women are from Venus

There is a poem on the back cover of the kids' new school diary for this year.

It starts with "I believe"...

There are many lines to this poem, but the one that stood out for me was this:

"That just because someone does not love you the way you want them to, it does not mean that they do not love you with all that they have."

I think that this is so true, especially for women. We expect the men who claim that they love us to behave a certain way and do certain things for us (without prompting, mind you. If we asked for it, it doesn't count) to prove their love for us. This is because we would do those things for them as well just because we love them. When they do not do or act as we expect, we translate it into, "He doesn't love me as much as I love him!" and that's where all the problems start. Little do we know that the men are clueless as their brains are far less superior models as compared to ours! :P

It's funny, because we actually have known this all along. We apply it to our fathers. Especially Asian fathers. We know that they love us with all they have, even though they are not good at expressing it. We know that their grunts and nods sometimes do mean "I love you".

So why can't our men's farts and ignoring-you-while-reading-the-newspaper be expressions of love? Well, okay, it is a different relationship, but they're both that 'blur sotong' (if you are not familiar with this term, think Homer Simpson) species called man. And when we understand that our brains don't run on parallel tracks, we'll be a bit more forgiving.

There is such wisdom in those words. It usually takes a long time into a relationship for this revelation to dawn on us, but when it does, the relationship can then mature and progress to another level towards unconditional love.

Men and women differ so much in the way our minds work, that I think we should be classed as different species. Maybe they should teach "Men are from Mars and Women are from Venus 101" in secondary school. That would prevent a lot of future heartache and strife indeed!

So anyway, this is dedicated to all young couples out there:

"Just because someone does not love you the way you want them to, it does not mean that they do not love you with all that they have."